Wellness Wednesday: What I’m Working On

Happy Midweek, Friends! I started writing about Wellness topics on Wednesdays because I noted that so many of my creative friends struggle with balance, as do I. Join me as I journey to wellness and balance and make mistakes along the way.

I am tardy for Wellness Wednesday this week, but I am okay with that.  Because I am working on Letting It Go.

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Tis the Season

This is something I have been working on for some time, in many forms.  I lost some friendships over the past couple of years and that really made me realize a couple of things.  Sometimes I just need to let them go.  Even though they may have been wrong and I may have been right, it just doesn’t even matter anymore.  We didn’t need to be friends anymore and I didn’t need to even tell them so.  I let it go. (Ok so one still hasn’t returned my things.  I admit I am keeping a Messenger open in case that happens. Alas.  Maybe I should just let that one go, as well.)

I downsized from an SUV to a sedan, and I had to learn how to deal with trunk storage efficiency.  (still learning) Then my office was being remodeled and I had to work in a different city. I took advantage of the time to review my boxes and remove what was old and unnecessary.  I was able to shred a ton of old papers, have one box contents imaged digitally, and for another- I am going to transfer the cd files to the digital archive. Progress!

A donation truck comes round our neighborhood tomorrow.  I was saving some clothing items for a former co-worker’s son- but it’s been years since I’ve seen him.  So tomorrow, out they go.  Sing with me now (to the tune of Let it Snow): Let it go, let it go, let it go!

I am so blessed as I have some wonderful friends and family members who are such outstanding beams of joy- but perhaps it has made me have high expectations of others.  I’m learning to tone down my levels of expectations and realize that other people have their own stuff going on and sometimes they just can’t see their actions.  When my daughter’s friends parents (who only have one child) don’t even acknowledge my older child,  I admit that does make me kinda furious inside.  But likely they don’t know better,  they don’t have older children and so sometimes don’t even know how to talk to them. Other people may have their own blocks, or they’re too far invested in their perceptions that they aren’t likely to change.  Can I let them go?  Some people I can let go, as long as I don’t see them.  Right?  Bueller?

I admit I have high expectations of myself.   I wrote two books, one musical, and recorded an album.  Why aren’t I more successful? Why can’t I find time to sit down and write my next book?  Why don’t I have more savings? Why did I forget about that school thing? Why didn’t I see that email?  Why can’t I keep up blogging three times a week?

Why can’t I just love myself and let myself be?

I am pretty aware, and I do have a lot going on, but I also have a pretty good support system and many tools available to me. I can focus and start using them to my advantage.  You know how when you have the right mindset, things just come to you?  Like that year when I truly believed that I was lucky, and I kept winning everything.  I want to live there.  I’m working on it.

Lots of times I do one thing, or see another, and then I think: Is this my thing?  Maybe this could be my thing.

Like that time I wrote a book.  Maybe this could be my thing.

Or when I wrote that essay on how Harry Potter helps my family with Autism. Maybe this could be my thing.

Or when I started making collage journals.  Maybe this could be my thing.

Or when I started travel writing.  Maybe this could be my thing.

The thing is- they are all my thing. I am me, and I am comprised of all these things.

I just discovered a crafty planning community.  I love the integration of scrapbooking elements with planning.  Remember I like to Plan, to Have Fun.

Integration.  Maybe this is My Thing.

What’s Your Thing?

 

Finishing up the Book Tour with a Sweet Treat!

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It has been such a  joy touring with this book. Special thanks to Melissa Flicks for her excellent organizing and promotion!

Stop by today’s post by C. Streetlights on her blog here.

Join us tonight for the party on Facebook, if you can!

Peace,

Denise

 

Blog Tour Continues: Dee’s post on RachelintheOC Today!

Hey Everybody!  The Book Tour for Dee’s Dishes continues!

I’m so honored to be featured on RachelintheOC’s blog today!

How Writing Takes Me Out of the Crazy is here!

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Have you checked out the other stops on this tour?

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Don’t forget to stop my virtual party on Facebook tomorrow!  Follow this link to RSVP: Dee’s Dishes release party

I really hope to see you there!

Peace,

Denise

Wednesday Wellness: Writing

Happy Wednesday, Dear Friends!

I started writing on Wellness topics on Wednesdays as I noticed so many of my creative friends struggle with balance and wellness, as do I.  Join me on my journey and let’s explore wellness together!

You guys!  I wrote a book!

I am so excited to share it with you!  It’s called Dee’s Dishes– and it’s a collection of stories and recipes.  You can buy it on Amazon.  I have some exciting activities coming up- including social media promotion, blog tour, Facebook party, a Headtalker campaign, and some giveaways.

Join me as I reflect on my grandparents and share their recipes.  I’ll take you to my favorite restaurants and show you how to make copycat dishes.  Heck, I’ll take you to my mother’s tropical island and show you around, and share some island dishes.

Here is the official blurb:

Dee’s Dishes is a Cookbook…and So Much More

How many times have you had Pepsi dumped on you? I’m talking completely-out-of-the-blue, shocking-and-sticky, all-over dumped on you. Well, it’s happened to me…more than once!

But, that’s actually not what this book is about…well, kind of. Sit down, grab yourself a coffee, tea, or wine, and dive into my personal stories about food, music, Guam culture, family, and how these elements have intertwined and danced throughout my life, resulting in some AH-MAZING recipes that I’ll share with you.

With easy-to-follow organization grouped by Sweet and Savory, I know you’re going to love these dishes! Like Pepsi Brownies, Coconut Candy, Titiyas (flatbread from Guam), Caprese Denisi, my one-pot pasta dish (that I call Seconds Pasta) and more.

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Writing is one way I manage the relative un-wellness and chaos and transform it into something resembling goodness.  I read a book that was short personal stories and recipes, and I thought “HEY!  I could do that!”

It is my hope that if you read my book, you might discover that you have a book inside you, too.

 

Peace,

Denise

 

 

 

 

 

Wednesday Wellness: Giving

Happy Wednesday Wellness, Friends!  I started writing about wellness topics on Wednesdays, as I no9ted many of my creative friends struggle with balance, as do I.  I hope maybe some of my experiences may help you in your own quest.  Join me on my journey today!

Today I decided to complete and post reviews for another indie author.  I had thought about writing them for some time, I don’t know what took me so long.  I had thought about it so long, I thought I had already done it.  But I did it today, posting on both Amazon.com and on Goodreads. I let the author know I had done so, and she was thrilled.  It made me so happy to know that I had done something.  She had bared her soul in a book of poetry.  And I affirmed her.  Reviews are like gold.

I also completed and shared a testimonial.  Something else that I had been ruminating but not writing.  So I did it today, let the entrepreneur know, and we had a nice friendly little chat.  She provided exemplary service, and I let the world know! Hopefully she can use my testimonial in her marketing materials.

There’s a lot going on in my life right now:  kids’ schedules and chaos.  But you  know what, I gave testimony today.  And the recipients were so thrilled.  There’s something so satisfying about giving.

All is well.

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Have you experienced the joy of giving? 

 

 

My Alaskan Cruise: Day 2

I had slept on the pull-out sofa, which wasn’t good for my back.  The rocking of the boat was quite noticeable, it had grown from subtle to in-your-face.  I don’t mind the rocking, in fact I find it soothing to be rocked to sleep. But I decide to trade sleeping spots with my husband going forward.

Our extended family party of nine met for brunch in the Windjammer Café (buffet) again. There is a crew member assigned to greet diners and also squeeze hand sanitizer into our hands.  He proudly holds the big pouch of clear goo wrapped in a black cloth napkin.  That’s his job.  (Even though there are also three free-standing hand sanitizer dispensers beside him.)  I wonder, when they see the duties posted, do the crew members think “YAY!  I get to squeeze the goo!”  or “Pshaw, I get the goo again!”  We will see this gentleman on each of our seven mornings.

This is a day at sea, and we are happy to explore the ship. We spend time in the Arcade, which has vintage games such as Galaga/ Ms. Pac-Man, as well as air hockey and skee-ball. Great fun to reconnect with one’s inner child, am I right?

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Kids, Let me show you how it’s done!

There is a Starbucks/ Ben & Jerry’s on the promenade deck,  we enjoy some girl time and my niece French braids my daughter’s hair.  I think this is the day we have soft serve ice cream, available on the pool deck, but we eat in inside because it is so cold, windy and wet on the pool deck.  We took this funny video of the Caution sign on the deck. Soon they would close off all exterior decks and place complimentary barf bags near the stairwells, as well as offer free sea sickness pills at the Guest Relations counter.  We have a quick bite of pizza from the  Café Promenade and make our way to the Theater which is showing the film Zootopia. It is fun to watch the film in this fancy theater.  There are some scary parts for little girls, but ultimately it is good fun.  I note that Star Wars: The Force Awakens will be playing during dinner tomorrow evening.  I’m so there!

 

We decide to dress now for Formal Night, before making our way to the Ice Skating Performance Show and then dinner. I’m so glad our luggage was found and we can wear the dresses and jewelry I had planned.  Tonight I am wearing my new charcoal scoop neck short dress, Mary Jane’s and this fabulous necklace from Premier Designs.  I am wearing the green side showing, with my hair down.   For our next formal night, I will wear the reverse silver side showing, and my hair up.  Here is a link to my friend Maria’s webpage where you can order your own reversible necklace and more. My daughter is proudly wearing her new dress (similar to her cousin’s) and reversing the brown belt to the black side, so that it matches her “fancy” black shoes.  The guys are wearing khaki’s and polo shirts, which are more comfortable.  We see hardly any tuxedoes  tonight, most men are dressed similarly or don sportcoats. My godson is looking dapper in his suit.  (I do notice a particular group of young girls who seem to casually walk by our party quite often!)

The ice show is entitled Spirit of the Seasons.  Royal Caribbean is the only cruise line with ice rinks on the ships.  It is 1/8th the size of a standard rink. which allows for a very intimate performance. (Later they will open the rink for All Skate sessions.)  It is wondrous seeing the first two numbers, but the rocking has accelerated and the Cruise Director walks on the ice to announce the suspension of the show, due to the safety of the performers. Completely understandable.  Here’s a lil snippet of what the waves looked like. We have some time before out dinner reservation, so we walk around taking photos. Dinner for a party of nine is challenging. I don’t know why the travel agent didn’t advise us to book our dining time early.  We had choices of 5:15pm or 8:30pm on most nights.  5:15 is fine when you are At Sea, but early if you are out on an excursion.  Every day some time was spent trying to change our reservations.  Kind of an annoyance, since it would have been avoidable had we been advised to select early or late dining, or at least book our “My Time” dining reservations earlier.

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Be Our Guest

We are seated near a window on the top floor of the three-floor dining room.  We have two tables pushed together four our large party.  This works better than a large circle table, actually.  It’s easier to sit next to who you want to talk to.  We have noticed that when your party contains children, they tend to seat you in the corners.  This is to our advantage, actually, as we can enjoy views from the windows. The food is not bad, the desserts are pretty good.  (The kids desserts on Princess were better than the kids desserts on Royal.)

 

We take formal pictures, as well as pose in all combinations ad nauseum for casual pics.  Then our group separates and my sister-in-law and I take the kids to the production show in the Theater.  We order Shirley Temples, Cherry Cokes, or Virgin Pina Coladas for all, and enjoy the show.  Afterwards, we swing by the Karaoke event, but my nerves kick in and there are no new songs in the karaoke book.  We say good night, as Dear Daughter knows when she’s turning into a pumpkin.  It is still light out!   A swan towel awaits us in the room (but no chocolates).

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Tomorrow we will be at sea in the morning, and port in Juneau I can’t wait to share with you all my pictures of the gorgeous glaciers, cool wildlife, and especially the cute puppies!  That’s what it’s all about, on this Alaskan cruise.